BOOKSMITH: Eva Hagberg Fisher with Tabitha Soren / How to Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship

Tuesday, March 5, 2019 - 7:30pm

Booksmith hosts Eva Hagberg Fisher for her first book, How to Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship. Eva will be in conversation with Tabitha Soren. Please join us!


Eva Hagberg Fisher spent her lonely youth looking everywhere for connection: drugs, alcohol, therapists, boyfriends, girlfriends. Sometimes she found it, but always temporarily. Then, at age thirty, an undiscovered mass in her brain ruptured. So did her life. A brain surgery marked only the beginning of a long journey, and when her illness hit a critical stage, it forced her to finally admit the long-suppressed truth: she was vulnerable, she needed help, and she longed to grow. She needed true friendship for the first time. 

How to Be Loved is the story of how an isolated person's life was ripped apart only to be gently stitched back together through friendship, and the recovery -- of many stripes -- that came along the way. It explores the isolation so many of us feel despite living in an age of constant connectivity; how our ambitions sometimes pull us apart more than bring us together; and how a simple doughnut, delivered by a caring soul, can become the essence of what makes a life valuable. With gorgeous prose shot through with empathy, pain, fear, and the secret truths inside all of us, Eva writes about the friends who taught her to grow up and open her heart -- and how the relentlessness of suffering can give rise to the greatest joy.


"This moving, beautifully written book reveals the lengths we go to put conditions on our love." – Nylon Magazine



Eva Hagberg Fisher's writing has appeared in the New York TimesT: The New York Times Style MagazineTin HouseWallpaper*WiredGuernica, and Dwell, among other places. She lives in New York City.





Tabitha Soren left a successful career in television in 1999 to start another one as a photographer. Her work is included in public collections such as the Los Angeles County Museum of Art, Oakland Museum of California; Transformer Station, Cleveland, Ohio; Pier 24 Photography, San Francisco; New Orleans Museum of Art; Indianapolis Museum of Contemporary Art, Indiana; and the Ogden Museum of Southern Art, New Orleans. Her work has been featured in Dear DaveMcSweeney'sVanity FairNew York Times MagazineBlinkSlateNew YorkSports IllustratedCalifornia Sunday Magazine, and ESPN The Magazine. She is represented by the Kopeikin Gallery, Los Angeles



This is a free, all-ages event.

RSVP is appreciated, but not required. 

If you cannot attend the event but would like to request a signed copy of How to Be Loved, order below and put your request in the comments field.


How To Be Loved: A Memoir of Lifesaving Friendship By Eva Hagberg Cover Image
ISBN: 9780544991156
Availability: Hard to Find (or) Out of Stock Indefinitely
Published: Ecco - February 5th, 2019

Tabitha Soren: Fantasy Life: Baseball and the American Dream By Tabitha Soren (Photographer) Cover Image
By Tabitha Soren (Photographer)
ISBN: 9781597113854
Availability: Out of Stock - Usually Ships in 1-5 Days
Published: Aperture - April 1st, 2017